Monday, October 29, 2007

Pet Peeve #297

When women are so stupid they make me defend men.

Today Dr. Phil was talking about child support issues. There was a man on there talking about the fact that he thinks men should not have to pay child support for kids that are not theirs just because women lie to them. And then there were women arguing with that principle! WTF??? And not just ANY women - smart women like Gloria Allred!!!! She was actually saying that these men were at fault for...I actually have no idea what she was blaming them for! I mean, the scenario goes like this:

W sleeps with M1 & M2
W gets pregnant and tells M1 he is the father
M1 believes her and, without taking her to court, helps take care of the baby
10 years later, W gets mad at M1 and reveals to him that he may not be the father
DNA Test reveals M1 is NOT the father
M1 refuses to keep giving W money
W takes M1 to court for child support
Court requires M1 to pay the support because he waited too long to do the DNA test

So, in essence, M1 is punished for believing W & volunteering to take care of the child and W is rewarded for lying. Some will argue that the child should not suffer because of the mother's lies, and I agree, but neither should M1!! And truthfully, how do we really know that W is using the money for the benefit of the kid? In many cases that does not happen. Especially when you are dealing with women who lie to get the support to begin with. I just can't believe that anyone could argue with a straight face that any man should be forced to pay for another man's child against his will. It's one thing if M1 adopts M2's kid knowing the truth, but nobody should be forced into fatherhood.

Wednesday, October 24, 2007

5 Days With K

Actually, it went pretty well. The fight I thought we were going to have turned out not to be a fight at all. We had one little argument on Sunday night, but that was really no big deal. And after we made up he said "I love being able to talk to you." LOL Not the reaction I expected, but okay.

We went to the beach and walked around Biketoberfest, he fixed my car stereo and replaced my shower head, and I brought him to work to show him around & introduce him to people. THAT was funny! He was literally sweating from being nervous...it was so cute. And he refused to sit behind the bench in the courtroom. We also went to see "We Own the Night" which was pretty good...I think K liked it better than I did. I think he even teared up a bit, but he will NEVER admit that! Oh! And we ate dinner at cheesecake factory, FINALLY! Chocolate Raspberry Truffle Cheesecake....Yummmmmm!

I cried a lot when I had to drop him off last night...more than usual. I'm not sure why. Maybe because it was such a good visit, maybe also because I am a bit emotional with all the stress of trying to find a job. I dunno. Then today I watched him drive away on I-4 from my office window and I cried again. What a pussy I am! LOL

Anyway, so that is that. He says he will try to be down here for thanksgiving, but that is unlikely. So, I may not see him again until Dec. 27th. Ugh. That is a long time. And since the only interviews I am getting are in Tampa, it is unlikely that we will see very much of each other once I finish this job. Why can't life be just a little bit easier? Oh well. As K says "We'll figure it out."

Tuesday, October 16, 2007

I am starting to hate my mailman

Two more rejections today. I appreciate everyone's encouragement and well wishes. So many people are telling me that I sent out resumes so early, but the truth is I asked the firms before I sent them out and they all told me "by mid-october", so that is what I did. And if I just wasn't hearing anything I would think that this was just firms waiting to see what they need. But I am hearing things, and they are all bad. And I guess I believe I will get a job eventually, but will it be awful? Will I hate it? And where will it be? I don't know, I am just really feeling the pressure right now. But, for the sake of all my readers, friends and family members, I will do my best to stop whining about it and move on. I will, of course, let everyone know if I get any good news.

K will be here on Thursday. I am excited to see him because I have been so stressed lately. Of course, I am worried about him coming here too. But things have been pretty good lately, so hopefully we will have a good weekend. Anyway, that's all for now.

Monday, October 15, 2007

POM @ HOB

Translation = Puddle of Mudd at House of Blues. Yep, that's right, CJ went to a concert last night. A real live outing - on a school night no less! LOL It was okay. Saliva opened for POM, and they were not very good live. One of their guitarists was SO creppy I thought he was gonna give me nightmares. He kept spitting beer on the audience, it was insane. Theye did play Always - which is one of my favorite songs of all time - and that was excellent. But the harder stuff is just better in the studio than live.

POM was VERY good live. They did lots of good songs, and I really enjoyed seeing them. Plus, they were much less creepy. They ended with She Hates Me, which they actually mixed with Summer Lovin' from Grease. That was HILARIOUS. I loved it.

We ate dinner at HOB before the show. That was not very good. I was unimpressed with their menu and nothing tasted very good. Plus, me and the girl I was with both felt a little nauseous during the show and I think it may be something we ate there. (It may also have been that someone around us was DRENCHED in some awful smelling lotion or something, who knows.) But I am fine today, so that is good.

I have decided though that I am getting really old. I felt so self-conscious there, which is unusual for me. Plus I was sick of standing real quick. I think my concert going days may be over. I was invited to go to a Fall Out Boy show on Nov. 1st, and I love their music, but I don't think I am gonna go. Not only because I feel old, but also because those guys are so unattractive and awkward that they are hard for me to watch. I know, that sounds crazy, but it's one of my many quirks.

So, anyway, that was my sunday. Oh, I also got 2 more rejection letters this weekend. Dammit.

Friday, October 12, 2007

Stats

Applications sent: 15
"No openings" responses: 4
Interviews: 1
Offers: 0

Grr. I know, I know, I have lots of time. Don't get discouraged. Blah blah blah. But seriously, I am getting a little nervous, ya know? I mean, if one of these 11 remaining firms doesn't make me an offer, I really don't have very many "back up" firms to go to. Only like 2 or 3. Am I gonna end up working in the public defender's office? Don't get me wrong, I could do that. And I wouldn't HATE it. But it's not the kind of paycheck I was hoping for ya know? Ugh. Color me distressed.

Tuesday, October 09, 2007

Interview #1

Yuck. I mean, I was fabulous & they should hire me. But unless I don't get any other offers, I won't be working there.

1st, the first guy to interview me said he didn't believe that prisoners had any civil rights at all, and anyone who does believe that is a liberal.

Next, I was asked how I would make up for being a clerk for two years rather than at a firm, because I never learned how to file notices or serve process.

Finally, I was told not to expect Xmas off or any other day for that matter. And if I wanna have babies, plan on taking a blackberry into the delivery room. Oh, and BTW, one of the partners told me he had worked until 4:30 a.m. the night before...on a SUNDAY!

So, um, thanks but no thanks. Next.

Friday, October 05, 2007

K Dreams of Genie

Last night K had a dream that I was a Genie. He said that I granted all his wishes. I fixed his credit report and I made him a Doctor, so that he could come home to me every night, and I married him. He said that he wanted me to be human, and he didn't want me to have to grant him any more wishes. But I told him that I could never be human, and that the only way to be sure I never had another master was to kill myself. Otherwise, someone else could find my lamp and then I would have to grant their wishes. He said he pleaded with me not to kill myself and that he would protect me, but I didn't listen and I killed myself. He said that he was emotionally destroyed and angry at me that I left him like that. But he said that when he woke up and heard my voice he was so happy.

I wish I was a Genie. I wish I could fix everything and make it all better. But at least, after sleeping on it, we are both a little less stressed. I had much worse dreams than K did last night. But today, I think we are both ready to do what we can to fix things, and he is not acting so defeated. So, hopefully we can fix this now - even without a magic lamp.

Thursday, October 04, 2007

STRESSED

For the last few weeks I have been a little bit depressed. Things started to perk up earlier in the week with the interview offer, but last night K got some bad news and now I am way beyond a little bit depressed.

K has been trying to re-finance his house for the past 6 months. I think his mortgage broker is a moron, but he won't listen to me. Well, somehow, in the last 6 mos, K's credit score has gone down 80 points. We don't know why, but this means nobody will approve him to re-fi the house. This is bad because he has a variable rate mortgage and when it goes up next year, which I am sure it will, he won't be able to make his monthly payments. So basically he will have to sell his house and get an apartment for his mother. He is VERY pissed and depressed and so very hard to deal with. He thinks that his credit score is messed up because he's black, and maybe it is. I don't see any reason why it would be so much lower than mine. But there is just nothing I can do about it. And the worst part is that now he has this attitude like he should just give up on everything. And he is being reckless so he got in an accident (not a big one) and then he cut his hand open, and all these things cost money to take care of. He doesn't have health insurance. Everything is just a mess and I don't know what to say or do. I keep telling him to let me get a copy of his credit report, but he would rather bitch. I dunno. I am just so stressed and my head hurts and I wanna cry and sleep.

Wednesday, October 03, 2007

Who's Your Daddy?

Jenna Bush was interviewed on CBS this morning. Apparently, she wrote a book about a 17 year-old girl in central america with HIV (or maybe AIDS...not sure of her status). Anyway, the following exchange took place:

Harry: In the book you talk a lot about condom use and safe sex practices. Is that contrary to how you were brought up? Or to what the republican party....?

Jenna: No! Not at all! Well, I don't know what the republican party thinks, but I think all parents agree that children should be educated, and we all want kids to be safe.

WTF?????? No Jenna! NOT all parents agree with that! In fact, your father and his party have made laws that vehemently oppose educating kids!!! Have you not heard of the "abstinence only curriculum"??? Are you so out of touch with your own country that you don't even know that kids are NOT being taught safe sex practices in school anymore? Do you not pay attention to what your own father is doing????

I am absolutely appalled by this. Here she is writing a book on HIV/AIDS, and she never even bothers to find out what is going on in this country on that topic? I really hope that someone informs her, seriously, about the abstinence only philosophy espoused by her father and his party. Personally, I think it is disgusting that kids are getting "sex ed" that doesn't teach them about condom use. It seems that she would be disgusted too....if only she was paying attention.

And just for fun....



Tuesday, October 02, 2007

A Step in the Right Direction

I got called for my 1st interview today! Yay! It is with the Tampa office of a large international firm. K is SO excited for me, which is so nice. Even tho it's not in NC he is totally psyched. Really, I can't tell you how much I appreciate that. The best thing about this is that, while it is a great opportunity, it's not my TOP choice, so it will be a good warm up to interviewing, ya know? I won't be devastated if I don't get it, so I can kinda relax. The guy who called me today was really nice and all the web gossip I can find about the firm is positive.

Anyway, all the interview talk made me think about something. It will be exactly 3 years ago next wednesday (10/10) that I interviewed in Charlotte...with a firm I just re-applied to. I remember because the day before the interview, while I was at the hotel, I called Megan to say happy birthday. It was the 1st time I talked to her on her birthday in about 8 or 9 years, because we had JUST found each other again. I remember how happy she was that I remembered and how glad I was to make her smile. I was so happy that we were friends again - I still am! Of course! Things have changed so much in the last 3 years - for both of us. It's so strange. No real point here, I was just thinking about that.

Anyway, I'll let everyone know how the interview goes and if I get any more!!! Wish me luck!

Monday, October 01, 2007

A Case of the Mondays

I finished a great book today! Oryx & Crake by Margaret Atwood. I really loved it - more than I thought I would. In fact, I already miss the main character! So, I would highly recommend this one.

I spent the rest of my day watching TV on my computer at work. I watched Shark and the Bionic Woman. Shark is one of my favorite shows, so that was excellent as usual. I'm still not sure about BW. It's better than I first thought, but I'm not sure I will care about the characters enough to keep watching. There are a few new shows that I REALLY liked: The Reaper and Life. Both have an element of dark humor, both will probably be cancelled.

Anyway, I did do a little bit of work today, but in total no more than an hour. There is just NOTHING going on. We have a trial this week, but it's E's case so I have nothing to do with it. Plus it's a re-trial of a case we took from another judge. So there aren't even any new issues really. Except that the lawyers are trying to get away with ridiculousness and my judge is kicking their asses. For example, one lawyer today made a motion to prevent witnesses from crying. My judge said "I can do a lot of things, but preventing a person from crying is not one of them." Sheesh.

So, anyway, that was my very boring, unproduvctive day. I think tomorrow I will watch How I Met Your Mother, and maybe Law & Order SVU from last week. ;-)