T-Day Wrap-Up

Bolt is a GREAT movie!!! You should all go see it. And when you do, keep this in mind: K is Rhino. I am looking into getting him a hamster ball.

My mom is very cool most of the time. Usually she is very un-mom-like. But sometimes she can be decidedly Marie Barrone (of Everybody Loves Raymond). For example, when she insists, VEHEMENTLY, that I slice the cranberry sauce. Or when my sister tries on a dress and my mom tells her she looks "lumpy". Ugh.

K installed my new radio in my new car. It has bluetooth. Now I really look like a crazy person: talking to nobody without even having a headset on and sticking my finger in my ear every time I try to answer or hang up the phone.

Reasons for Hate

It never ceases to amaze me how creative hateful people are. They are constantly think up new "logical" reasons for their hateful stances. Today I refer to the anti-gays.

When I was in law school I was the Vice President of our LGBT organization. We hosted a debate on gay marriage. Our goal was to have a civilized intelligent debate by well-credentialed people on both sides of the issue. We succeeded and it went quite well. While we were planning it I was really looking forward to hearing what the other side would say. The debators were both well-known attorneys. One was a law professor and one was in private practice. I honestly wanted to see what the anti-gay argument would be. I assumed that I would learn something, that there would be some well-reasoned argument on the other side that I hadn't heard yet. I was wrong. Dead wrong. This man stood in front of our group and gave the same stupid reasons every ignorant redneck gives: it threatens the sanctity of marriage. Who will do the dishes? Who leads when you dance? Etc, etc. Just a bunch of crap.

Well, apparently enough people have discovered that these reasons are crap, so now the anti-gays have a new reason: if we let gays get married they will teach gay in our schools!! Our kids will be taught about same-sex relationships! They may even become tolerant of them!! GASP!! Well, don't worry your pretty little heads all you anti-gays. I am sure it will take generations before any of your lineage learns tolerance. Just like you are so proud that we finally have a "colored" president, maybe your great-grandkids will some day talk about how nice it is that the fags down the street had a little wedding for themselves. But fear not, I am sure you will be dead long before such "tolerance" touches your family tree.

Your Own Backyard

I got an email today from a co-worker who just got back from her honeymoon. I asked her where she went and she said:

"Cancun, Mexico! Beautiful beaches and great weather... hard to come back!"

Seriously??? You live in Tampa!! It was hard to come back to more beaches and great weather?? I have never understood why anyone would spend money on mexican beaches anyway, let alone when you live on the same damn body of water!!

Obviously I get that when you are not on vacation you are busy with work, etc. and don't get time to go to the beaches as often as you like. But, if you are going to take a vacation to a beach, why spend all that money when you have beaches right here?? Just take a week off of a work and skip the airline hassle, the peso conversion chart and the possible montezuma's revenge!! You can even speak spanish all week if you want to!! Am I crazy here??

Crash

So, K got in an accident yesterday. He is fine, his truck is fine, but it really shook him up. It was COMPLETELY not his fault - someone ran into the back of his trailer. But it still really upset him and he has been QUITE unpleasant ever since.

It happened yesterday at 2pm. The strange thing is that, at almost the exact same moment it happened I was buying his xmas present. I know he is going to LOVE it and it's hard not to tell him about it cuz I know it would make him feel better but I also want to keep it a surprise. So I am doing my best to keep my mouth shut.

I hate when bad things happen like this, and he is so far away. There is nothing I can do to make him feel better. I just have to sit and listen and do nothing. It sucks. He's supposed to be here for thanksgiving, but that's still a week away. I just hope that, in the meantime, he calms himself enough that nothing else will happen, ya know? Anyway, so that's the scoop.

Dear K,

When we were little, I stood in front of you, looked you in the eye and made a promise. I promised that I would stand there in front of you, forever if I had to, to save you from yourself. I broke that promise almost immediately, but I'm not sorry. I was a kid and so were you. I didn't know enough about anything to be making such huge promises. And if I had kept that promise we would both still be standing there - not going anywhere. It wouldn't have done us any good.

But I'm older now, and I've learned enough about myself and you and truth and promises to make this one: as long as you are on my team, I will be on yours. I will help you take on anyone or anything that comes for you. I will stand next to you and hold your hand. I will cheer for you and I will hold you. And I will never let you keep me from protecting us. No matter how scared or how proud you are. That is my promise and I will keep it.

The two of us have changed in a million ways over the last two and a half years. We have made compromises we never thought we could and done things we never thought we would. Sometimes it seems too easy, and other times it is almost too difficult to bear. We have been more honest and more real than most people ever are. We have redefined our own ideas of what romance and love can and should be. We have been horrible and amazing. But the one thing that sustains: we are a team.

I stand with you today and look into our future together and know that it won't be perfect, but I believe it will be great. I love you and I love us, and this was worth the wait.

My President Is Black!!

Yeah, I know, I'm a few days late with the election commentary, but I didn't want to do a half-assed job on it.

Truly, I am so amazed and relieved with the results of the presidential election. I am shocked that there were enough smart, brave Americans to vote a black man named Barack Obama into the white house. I really thought our country was too ignorant to do it. My biggest hope is that this election has shown all the people who never vote that they should, that they can make a difference. We can keep the old ignorant self-serving white men down - we just have to make an effort.

I hope that Obama is kept safe and that he does a great job over the next 4, and hopefully 8, years. I hope this is the beginning of an American Renaissance. I hope our nation is made stronger, smarter and more tolerant. I hope we get some amazing federal judges over the next 4 years. I hope our education and healthcare systems are improved. I don't care if my taxes go up, if it means my quality of life and level of freedom go up as well.

My sister saw a sign that said "Rosa sat so Martin could march so Barack could run so our children can fly." It brought her to tears. I have to say, I think it's a nice sentiment. Of course, there are millions of other names that belong in there, but the point is the same. Our nation is progressing. Racism is not gone though - not by a long shot. Hate is still everywhere and we have a long way to go.

Which brings me to what DID make me cry the day after the election: the gay marriage bans. Yes ladies and gentlemen, gay is the new black. There was a time in this country when interracial marriage was illegal. That was shameful. So is this. There is no difference. These bans passed because of hatred and ignorance. How could the same brave, smart Americans that voted for Obama vote for these bans as well? I will never understand. In Florida, the ban passing just maintained the status quo for gay couples - except that it may have prohibited public employees from getting domestic partner benefits. But regardless of the legal effects, it is the social effect that makes these bans so devastating. When will people realize that intelligence and hate never go together? As a society we always outgrow these sanctions eventually - why do the same dance with every minority group? You may not be gay, you may not understand gay people, just like you didn't understand how a white woman could be attracted to a black man. But don't interfere with their lives just because you don't get it. Mind your own damn business. You don't mind if I marry an axe murderer or a drunk or charlie manson. You don't care if I get married in a chapel in vegas wearing sequined pasties. You don't care if I marry a rapist or even someone I've never met before. But I can't marry a woman??? How much freakin' sense does that make?

As much as Obama's victory filled up my heart with happiness and pride, the passing of the gay marriage bans broke my heart. I wonder how long it will take for the next minority to take the place of gay people - and I wonder what that group will be. You should too - you may be in it.

FINALLY!

That's Right, Bitch.

Yeah so my boss was falling over himself apologizing to me today. He better! He said "I was kind of in a mood yesterday about some stuff that had nothing to do with you." Yeah no kidding!! Sheesh! So, that made me feel better. I went on to have a productive and successful day. 

Ugh.

Okay, well I have figured out what is wrong with my boss. He doesn't pay attention to what he says or does. Like on Friday he told me that he needed me to make some edits to an affidavit I had drawn up, but insisted that I wait until Monday to do it and told me repeatedly to take off for the day. So I did. Then today I get an email from him, telling me that the affidavit needs the exact same edits he told me about on Friday but now acting like (1) we did not discuss this friday and (2) it needs to be done right now. So I say "Okay, well you said I should do this Monday but if you need it today I can do it now." and he responds with "we'll talk on tuesday." WTF???

Also, he has a terrible habit of forgetting to do things. He asks me to draw up motions and I do, and I send them to him, and then he never signs them or submits them. So there are like 4 motions that he has sitting in his inbox that should have been filed like 2 weeks ago.

It seems like all of this is the result of disorganization, which surprises me considering he is a partner. I would think he would be organized by now!! Grrr.

I Bought A New Car!!!

Yep. I sure did! A 2008 Kia Sorento LX in midnight blue with a gray interior. DB has never touched it, looked at it or put a dime into it and it is ALL MINE!!! I am really so giddy I can't stand it! This is the 1st brand new car I have ever had, and the first car I've ever bought with my own money. I love it. It's fabulous. It's dark out so I can't take a picture of it right now, but I will tomorrow and then you can all see how fabulously gorgeous it is!!